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Anti Bully School Program
Anti-Bully Speakers for Schools


Ben is more than simply an award-winning author; he is a anti-bully week speaker, traveling to schools across the nation with a unique take on the complex issue of bullying and how it impacts individuals and the community as a whole. His ability to connect with youth through laughter and honest communication has helped students overcome bullying and provides hope to those who have been victims.


Ben’s willingness to be vulnerable about his experiences as a boy, coupled with his dynamic message of the dignity in being different, bring genuine moments of breakthrough for students and schools who want more than just an average “don’t bully” speaker.

Touching Spirit Bear referenced on Anderson Cooper

Bullying Special by student who was positively impacted by the book.

A place to celebrate different, gain insight as parents and teachers, access resources for change, and provide support for students. 


It's tough to know this sometimes when you're young, but you deserve to be heard, you deserve to be yourself without fear of repercussions (that means people shouldn't treat you mean just because you are being yourself), and you deserve respect, even if you are "small." In the words of Dr. Seuss, "A person's a person, no matter how small." This applies to any other part of personhood as well. A person deserves to be free to discover who they are, what they are good at (or not good at), and what they do or don't like, in fact, that is actually your job! Growing up has enough challenges without worrying about bullies; physical, verbal, or emotional. 


I know a lot about being bullied. I was pushed around, beat up, called names, and intimidated on an almost daily basis during much of my young life. That's why I care so much. I know it hurts. I've cried those tears. And I feel like it's part of my job as a grown up, who is lucky enough to write stories for kids, to help you know you are important and it is ok to be different. In fact, that is one of the best things about life, getting to be who you really are.


So, I invite you to read a few inspiring stories here, maybe write one of your own (sometimes putting how you feel on paper is the fastest way to feel better), know you are not alone, many kids go through being bullied, even though that totally stinks and is super wrong! If you are feeling pressured to join in and bully someone else, you also are not alone. This happens all the time. But you have to decide who you really want to be, how you want to treat people, how you expect them to treat you.


I know, we grown ups always seem to say silly things like just "Say no to bullying", as if that will fix it right up. I understand, it's not exactly that simple. But while we all work together to put a stop to bullying, I hope you can believe, really deep down, that you have value, you are important, and your differences are what make you special.


A Tribute to Touching Spirit Bear

Thankfully, in the past decade a greater awareness of the dangers and lasting impact of bullying has sparked more conversations and more action.


Initiating significant and lasting change for the good of both the bullied and those who are bullying requires more than a mere "no-tolerance" policy and one week of annual anti-bully programs. Focusing, however arbitrarily, on this complex issue and passing bracelets out seems productive because as adults it makes us feel empowered; at least we are not ignoring the issue, right?


However, those in daily contact with kids who are struggling know in their gut, this is just not quite accomplishing all we had hoped.


Building environments that provide a safe harbor, educational resources, and lasting change, don't come from policies, posters, and rhetoric. True change in a human heart can be messy. It comes from digging deep into the heart of the matter, touching the ugly mess that bullying causes and meeting students right where they are.


Ben Mikaelsen has a driving passion to see more than mere "improvement." He is committed to a cultural shift that grabs students at the heart of the hurt, the core of the problem, for bully and bullied alike.


This is why he writes books like Touching Spirit Bear, which are packed with authentic emotion, which serves as a mirror to the student. Revealing personal vulnerability, anger, fear, or gentleness, whatever it is that needs to come to the surface.


This book has served as a catalyst for change many times over in pre-teens and teens who need to face deep seeded anger and pain. Not just their own pain, but pain they may have caused others. In a People Magazine article on the damage bullying causes, a teacher used Touching Spirit Bear, to reach the heart of the matter in the student involved in bullying, which impacted real change in his heart. We know that behavior follows the intent of the mind and heart. 


Ben is a dynamic speaker and has a rapport with students that wins them over. If you, your school, youth organization, or group needs more than just the average "don't bully" message, Ben has a proven track record of influencing positive behavior and facilitating authentic discussion among youths.


If you would like to submit a contribution to Ben's Bully-Free Blog, we would love to hear from you. We are looking for personal perspectives, whether student, teacher, parent, or community leader. Your story and your voice matter. Ben is driven to see real discussion, real change, and daily victories in the war on bullying. Contact our blog editor to provide your submissions, we would love to have you participate.

Looking Up in the New Year

January 2016

There is something refreshing each year when January rolls around. It is a chance to start over, to get a new perspective. Spending time in schools from communities so different from one another has shown me something. It is easy to sense a difference in mood and outlook from one to the other, but what remains a constant is that there are leaders who care deeply about the children in their scope of influence. It is encouraging to see people from diverse backgrounds, educations, and perspectives working hard to end bullying and to teach the next generation a better way to cope socially.

Stop Bullying in Schools

November 2015

It seems so obvious a task. Simply create a no-tolerance policy and, Voila', problem solved. But the physcoligical, and emotionally charged issue is not that easily thwarted.

The social dynamic of young people are such that the majority of the time bullying is silent, under the table, and the victims are unlikely to report incidents, feeling there is no safety net.


In a recent nationwide study, almost 90% of students aged 12-16 reported having been bullied at least once, and of those less than 25% reported the incident. When students are asked why they fail to report a common response is that they fear the bullying will only get worse. They don’t believe adults in schools can protect them.

Let's Make a Difference This Year

September 2015

Tough to believe the summer is already behind us and a new school year is underway. Unfortunately, for some students, a return to school is a return to anxiety and stressful bully situations. Ben is always encouraging students and teachers alike to be aware and to be willing to get involved when we see bully behavior.


While many school systems have a no tolerance policy with regard to bullying, and most states have anti-bully legislation, they can never replace personal accountability and on the ground enforcement. In an effort to reduce bully behavior this school year, consider doing a few things listed here to improve awareness.

I didn't even recognize myself...

an average teen girl in America

Why can’t we all just get along? I have thought about that so much since I first became a teenager. The number of times girls have been rude, caddy, and downright mean, for what seems like no reason, (other than I must make an easy target) is ridiculous. Every time a bully has gone after me, I feel myself withdraw and become less and less of who I really am. Sometimes, I didn’t even recognize myself anymore.

"Are you a comedian?" and other questions I saw them ask Ben...

June 4, 2015

I had the privilege of attending one of Ben's Bully-Free speaking events at a local school and was blown away by how engaged the students were. He had them laughing and focused on the depth of his message in a way that I know had to stick with them long after the assembly was over. As a parent, I was thrilled to see the positive messages of valuing differences and ending bullying presented with enough umph to  have staying power.


The Making of a Bully

May 18, 2015

Ginger L

There are a myriad of reasons why a bully develops the behaviors that cause damage. Whether it is behavior learned from home or from peers, a need to feel empowered or in control, a fear of being the lowest person on the social ladder, a drive to get one's own way, or any other reason, we can all agree bullying creates a toxic atmosphere and has negative consequences for both the bullied and the bully alike.

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